MY CAREGIVING JOURNEY
I first became a caregiver raising a child with special needs. That marriage became a statistic of caregiving marriages and ended in divorce. I remarried a few years later to a man supportive of my role of caregiver. It was ironic in a way because, within a few years of our marriage, his diagnosis of primary progressive multiple sclerosis resulted in my becoming his full-time caregiver.
As I have interacted with other caregivers and the efforts made to maintain or restore physical, mental, or emotional well-being especially by trained and licensed professionals system over the past thirty years in caregiving for my child, my spouse, my mom, and now, my grandchildren, the lack of support for The basic unit in society traditionally consisted of two parents and their children but the family has now been expanded to include any of various social units differing from but regarded as equivalent to the traditional family. caregivers is a glaring deficit in our healthcare system. We expect untrained and unprepared family members, often still in shock over what has happened to their loved ones to go home and care for them in the same way a nurse provides care after four years of training. Then they wonder why hospitals have such high readmissions rates after discharge?
- Don’t have the emotional support they need for their well being
- They don’t have the training they need to problem solve the unexpected
- They don’t have the knowledge to know how to prevent problems
- They don’t have the resources available to make their jobs safer and more comfortable to perform
- They don’t get the rest they need to be able to be safe for themselves and the one under their care
- They don’t know where to go to get help, and they don’t have the time available to research where to go to find it
Once I retired, I felt a strong desire to reach out to other caregivers to help them in a way that was not available to me when I needed it. I didn’t want anyone else to go through what I had suffered. So, I started researching the internet to see if anything currently existed like I had in mind. I found that many agreed there was a need, but few offered solutions. Some universities offered support to their family caregivers using their facilities. There are also some other caregiver blog sites trying to do similar work. I applaud their efforts and hope this trend continues.
For now, my mission is to reach as many caregivers as I can
- to find resources for new and current caregivers for information and training. In some cases, I may produce the information and training, and in others, I will provide the link.
- to promote products and equipment that make life better for the caregiver or the one receiving care in some way.
- to provide consultation or problem-solving assistance to families or facilities
- to promote a community of caregiver that encourages individuals to privately share their stories and lives for emotional support reducing feelings of isolation
- regularly sharing topics related to caregiving through blogs with an open discussion to promote lively discussion and exchange of ideas
- to occasionally gather data from members through surveys regarding issues of interest supporting caregiving
With God’s blessing and your support, I’ll be successful on that mission.